Tips to Self Discovery of Your True Self

I’m looking inside me, discovering who I really am and the person I ultimately want to be when I grow up! As I said before, 2020 will be all about my journey to learning and discovering how to live my very best life. So, self-discovery is the mode I’m in.

Self-discovery is an amazing process that we all should embark on, to become a better person for ourselves and for our family and friends. It’s really about just looking inside of you to discover who you really are as a person. Growing those aspects you like and eliminating the ones you do not. Here are a few tips that can help you start a journey to self-discovery of your own.

1. Practice being quiet and becoming mindful by paying attention to yourself and your surroundings without focusing on your past or the future. Freeing yourself from the noise that surrounds you all day, every day and be intentionally quite for at least 10 or 15 minutes each day. Some people pray, meditate or just sit and be quite. You’ll be amazed how truly relaxed you can feel after just 15 minutes of quite time.

2. Ask yourself these questions, Who am I? What brings me joy? What am I afraid of? What do I want to accomplish? Be honest with yourself. Asking yourself questions is an effective way to hone in on who you are and what you really want.

3. Journaling your thoughts is a great way to reflect on where you are in life and focus on where you may want to go in the future. A couple of writing prompts to get you started are: Make a list of 30 things that make you smile; If you could talk to your teenage self, write what you would like to say; What do you love about life; List 30 things you are grateful for.

4. Practice self-care. Take time from your busy schedule to do things that make you happy and feel good.

5. Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage your journey to self-discovery. To grow into the best possible version of yourself, cling to those who support and eliminate those who bring you strife.

These are 5 tips that can help you start on a journey to self-discovery.

Now it’s your turn,

What do you do to find a little quite time to yourself?

Happy discovering!

Trim Natural Hair to Maximize Growth

I has an appointment to trim my ends this week. My ends weren’t super bad but I know trimming now will help me have a healthier head of hair. I’m looking to grow my fro as long as it will grow! Trimming our hair is an aspect of a healthy hair care regimen that promotes healthy natural hair growth and length retention. I want to share my answers to some of the common hair trimming questions.

Why is trimming important?

The ends are the oldest part of your hair and can become damaged from manipulation, heat and chemical use, environment and even your diet. Over time, daily wear and tear on your hair will degrade and wear down the hair’s cuticle, exposing the inner cortex. The result is split, frayed and damaged ends of your hair.

Trimming is important to rid your hair of those damaged ends and expose your healthy, vibrant hair that free of tangles and frizz.

Time for a trim?

When it comes to trimming your hair, you can be proactive or reactive.

  • Proactive – Trimming your ends every few months, even when you don’t necessarily notice any damaged or split ends. Trimming should be minute in this case. Most stylists recommends you to trim your hair every 3 to 4 months to keep split and frayed ends at bay.
  • Reactive – Trimming your ends when you notice more tangles, knots and breakage or your ends are frayed and dry. Trim all the damaged ends and your hair will look and feel much better.

How much should be trimmed?

Split ends can travel up the hair shaft which can cause your ends to tangle and look frayed and frizzy. Damaged ends need to be removed totally.

I promote trimming all the split and damaged ends. That may be ¼ of an inch or 2 or more inches. The goal is to rid the hair of all of the split and damaged ends.

Is it possible to trim your own hair?

If you are comfortable with managing your own hair care then trimming can be added to your natural hair care routine. The tools of the trade are professional hair shears and hair clamps. Once you have your tools then you’re more than ready to trim your own hair. If you don’t feel comfortable or don’t want to obtain the proper tools then go to a trusted natural hair stylist.

How to trim your own hair?

Trimming your own hair can take some time, so give yourself enough time to not be rushed while going through the process. Cut your hair while it’s dry and be very careful while trimming, so you don’t cut too much of your hair.

Try two strand twisting your hair and snip off any ends that are frizzy, dry, frayed at the very bottom of your twists. You can snip off the ends as you are twisting your hair and when you finish twisting you will have healthy curls with no signs of damage or split ends. Just remember to cut all the damaged and split ends.


Now it’s your turn…

Let me know how often you trim your hair in the comment section.