Tips to Self Discovery of Your True Self

I’m looking inside me, discovering who I really am and the person I ultimately want to be when I grow up! As I said before, 2020 will be all about my journey to learning and discovering how to live my very best life. So, self-discovery is the mode I’m in.

Self-discovery is an amazing process that we all should embark on, to become a better person for ourselves and for our family and friends. It’s really about just looking inside of you to discover who you really are as a person. Growing those aspects you like and eliminating the ones you do not. Here are a few tips that can help you start a journey to self-discovery of your own.

1. Practice being quiet and becoming mindful by paying attention to yourself and your surroundings without focusing on your past or the future. Freeing yourself from the noise that surrounds you all day, every day and be intentionally quite for at least 10 or 15 minutes each day. Some people pray, meditate or just sit and be quite. You’ll be amazed how truly relaxed you can feel after just 15 minutes of quite time.

2. Ask yourself these questions, Who am I? What brings me joy? What am I afraid of? What do I want to accomplish? Be honest with yourself. Asking yourself questions is an effective way to hone in on who you are and what you really want.

3. Journaling your thoughts is a great way to reflect on where you are in life and focus on where you may want to go in the future. A couple of writing prompts to get you started are: Make a list of 30 things that make you smile; If you could talk to your teenage self, write what you would like to say; What do you love about life; List 30 things you are grateful for.

4. Practice self-care. Take time from your busy schedule to do things that make you happy and feel good.

5. Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage your journey to self-discovery. To grow into the best possible version of yourself, cling to those who support and eliminate those who bring you strife.

These are 5 tips that can help you start on a journey to self-discovery.

Now it’s your turn,

What do you do to find a little quite time to yourself?

Happy discovering!

My Favorite Non-Fiction Books

My Favorite Non-Fiction Books

I believe Non-Fiction books are the books that make you stand up and pay attention. Learning and gaining knowledge never get old because doing so opens the mind to ideas, concepts and opinions that you may never formulate on your own.

Lately I’ve been reading a ton of self-help and life improvement type books that I’m sure will get your brain to stirring and cause you to want to do something, anything. Check them out.

The Success Principles by Jack Canfield is by far one of those books that will make you questions your entire existence. The books has doable exercises that are sure to place you on the right track of following your passion and your purpose on this planet. This is an awesome book that needs to be re-read several times to remind you of those things you need to do to have ultimate success is your life.

Retire Inspired by Chris Hogan is a must read for those who are ready for retirement and for those who are looking down the road at retirement. This book helps you develop the actual dollar figure you need to be able to comfortably retire.

The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey helps you to see the big picture of eliminating all of your debt and creating a nest egg that will be there when true life emergencies arise. The book details Dave’s 7 baby steps to creating the financial life that we all want.

Start Late, Finish Rich by David Bach focuses on the people who are feeling a little left behind in saving for retirement. The book helps you realize where you are and what you can do to get to where you want to be when you reach retirement.

The Latte Factor by David Bach reads like a novel and details a method of shifting the things that we do with our money to finance the life that we really want. Instead of spending money on your daily latte, trying making a latte at home and not spending $3 to $5 in a coffee shop and instead place it towards your savings. He gives practical ideas that will help you save money.

Influencer by Brittany Hennessy was suggested to me by a friend. This books opens your eyes to what businesses, companies and marketing firms are looking for when they are seeking an influencer. There are practical tips that can help you grow from a small to big fish in the pond of influencing through social media.

Let your Life Speak by Parker J. Palmer title pretty much says it all. The book discusses leading a life that speaks for you, your integrity, your care for others and so forth.

All these books are available in audible format from Sign up for Audible and you won’t be disappointed. You can listen to books while commuting to work, cleaning your house, during your leisure or any other time. Trust me you’ll love it!

Now it’s your turn,

What’s a favorite non-fiction that you would like to share with us?

Happy reading!

I’m Taking Control of My Life…

“Taking control and becoming more disciplined.” is my theme for 2020.

To gain control of my life, I must become more disciplined by changing my habits and developing helpful routines. So, I’m starting a “Better Me” journey which will encompass health and fitness, goal setting, self care, entrepreneurial skills and more.

I would love to share my “Better Me” journey with you, here on my blog and on Youtube. I’ll share helpful tips and tricks that I learn along my journey that are helping me and can help you.

To start my journey of becoming a “Better Me”,

1. I’ll access where I am in life and the areas that I want to see change. An example is not having to frantically search for my car keys before work.

2. I’ll address those areas by making habit changes or routines. For my example, I’ll begin hanging my keys on the hook everyday, so I’ll know where the keys are when I’m ready to leave.

3. I’ll follow through with the habit and routine that I set up. If I say I’m going to get out of bed at 5 am to exercise then that’s what I’ll have to do. The follow through will get us every time.

4. I’ll leave room for changes. I don’t want to be so rigid in my new habit or routines that I can’t make changes along the way and then stress myself out or quit all together. If something works then stick to it, if not ditch it and develop new ways.

By sharing my journey with you, I’m being a little selfish, because I’m counting on being held accountable for my actions by you.

I’m on a journey…I’m not perfect but I’m striving for better. Thank you for joining me.


Now it’s your turn…

Let me know any special 2020 plans you have in the comment section.

AVOID Becoming a Product Junkie

I’m on my second natural hair journey after deciding to let my hair grow as long as it will grow. No more cutting my hair, unless it’s a trim. I’m going to Grow my Fro by properly caring for my hair, being less restrictive and having fun this time around.

Properly caring for my hair involves trying new and different products to find “THE Product Combo” that works best for my fine natural hair. At this point of natural hair discovery is when some people fall into this black hole of trying tons of natural hair care products, transforming responsible consumers into product junkies and discovering that once they climb out of the addictive hole they are left with too many products to store or use.

Not me…Not this time around…

I refuse to become a product junkie, a junkie to the products. I absolutely refuse. These are four ways I’m using to not become a product junkie.

  1. I limit myself to buying hair products from the same line once per month. I purchase only products that I feel will work well with my hair. I don’t need all the products of an entire line for my hair. For example, butters and some creams are too heavy for my fine natural hair so I shy away from those products and choose hair milks and leave in sprays.
  2. I use the products I buy for the entire month. I switch up the way I use the products to see if I get different results with different methods. I’m giving myself a chance to really examine if the products are good for my hair. I’ll give a product a few chances unless it’s just horrible in my hair. No product hopping for me.
  3. I stopped chasing the perfect curl or perfect style that i see someone else rocking. I have fine hair strands and there’s no product on the market that can transform my hair into being thick and voluminous like the girls on Instagram and Youtube. I’m not running out to buy every product being pushed by those ladies. I’m my hair crush!
  4. When I do find the holy grail of products for my head of hair. I will stick with those products as long as they work well for my hair. I don’t feel there will be a need to keep looking for new products if I have whats working for me.

Those are four ways I’m using to not become a product junkie.


Now it’s your turn…

Let me know if you are a product junkie or recovering product junkie in the comment section.

Relaxation Time! Epsom Salt Bath

Life is busy. Point. Blank. Period. Life is busy and we as women tend to take on so much responsibility for our families, careers and social organizations. Taking time to care for ourselves is often times placed on the to-do list and never get checked off. But we need learn to stop everything and take the time to care for us. When we make the decision to take care of self first, we become better all around. Destressing allows you to focus on letting everything go and become a better you.

I promised myself, that starting in 2019 I would choose me. One of my favorite ways to destress after a stressful day or one of those super long weeks is soaking in an Epsom salt bath to relax my mind and body. Soaking in this at-home detoxifying bath is both cheap and easy and you’ll find that all your pinned up tension, stress and anxiety will all melt away.

Epsom salt is magnesium sulfate. An epsom bath provides a soothing soak for your body and helps your muscles to relax, as some of the magnesium is absorb through your skin. Epsom salt also raises the water’s specific gravity, which makes the body more buoyant, and you feel light and floaty as you relax.

To enhance your experience, dim the light, light a candle and add a few drops of your favorite essential oil to help you fully de-stress and relax.

At-Home Epsom Salt Bath

  • 2 cups epsom salts
  • Optional: 5-10 drops your favorite essential oil.
    • Lavender to relax
    • Peppermint to energize
    • eucalyptus to build your immune system
  • Add ingredients to a full, warm or hot bathtub and soak for 20 minutes. Take this time to truly relax and breathe deeply.
  • Lay down afterwards and have a peaceful night of sleep. The best night sleep ever for me!

Soak for 20 minutes to allow the epsom salts to pull the toxins from your pores, but no more than 20 minutes as you risk re-absorbing the impurities.


Now it’s your turn…

Let me know your favorite way to unwind in the comment section.

Melanin Hair Care

Everyone has been raving over Melanin Hair Care products that are made by vlogger, Whitney White aka Naptural85 from YouTube. Of course, I had to bite the bullet and purchase the two products that she’s currently offering on her website, the Twisting Elongating Style Cream and the Multi-Use Pure Oil Blend.

I wanted to see how the products would work with my fine natural hair, so I used the products to flat twist my hair. The cream and the oil were light enough and didn’t weigh my hair down.I  really like the curly results when I removed the twists. My hair was so bouncy and care free. Check out my YouTube demo video below.












Now it’s your turn…

Let me know what your favorite twisting cream in the comment section below!

My April Audio Book Picks

The Easy Rawlins series by Walter Mosley is my absolute favorite mystery series of all times. So not suggesting the first book in the series, Devil in a Blue Dress, would be sacrilege.

Set in the late 1940s, in the African-American community of Watts, Los Angeles, Devil in a Blue Dress follows Easy Rawlins, a black war veteran just fired from his job at a defense plant. Easy is drinking in a friend’s bar, wondering how he’ll meet his mortgage, when a white man in a linen suit walks in, offering good money if Easy will simply locate Miss Daphne Monet, a blonde beauty known to frequent black jazz clubs.

This book has many twists and turns that will keep you on the edge of your seat and leave you swooning over Easy! His debonair and cool style mixed with roughness that can make anyone spill the beans. Start with the first book in the series and work your way through all fourteen books. Trust me, you won’t regret it!

If Beale Street Could Talk by James Baldwin is a definitely a book to revisit since the release of the movie adaptation! In this honest and stunning novel, James Baldwin has given America a moving story of love in the face of injustice. Told through the eyes of Tish, a 19-year-old girl in love with Fonny, a young sculptor who is the father of her child, Baldwin’s story mixes the sweet and the sad.

Tish and Fonny have pledged to get married, but Fonny is falsely accused of a terrible crime and is imprisoned. Their families set out to clear his name, and as they face an uncertain future, the young lovers experience a kaleidoscope of emotions – affection, despair, and hope.

In a love story that evokes the blues, where passion and sadness are inevitably intertwined, Baldwin has created two characters so alive and profoundly realized that they are unforgettably ingrained in the American psyche.

The Power to Prosper by Michelle Singletary is an awesome book for anyone seeking to align their money with biblical principles and promises. The book teaches you practical ways to financial freedom by putting you on a 21-day financial fast, where you are prohibited from using credit cards and cannot buy anything unless it is a basic need for survival. You’ll experience something even more amazing…your faith and generosity will increase, too.

Any habit can be broken or started in just 21 days! Just trust the process.

On the Come Up by Angie Thomas is a young adult book that deals with many of the issues that we deal with on a daily basis.

Sixteen-year-old Bri wants to be one of the greatest rappers of all time. Or at least get some streams on her mixtape.

As the daughter of an underground rap legend who died right before he hit big, Bri’s got massive shoes to fill. But when her mom unexpectedly loses her job, food banks and shut-off notices become as much a part of Bri’s life as beats and rhymes.

With bills piling up and homelessness staring her family down, Bri no longer just wants to make it – she has to make it.

We’re Going to Need More Wine by Gabrielle Union is a moving collection of thought-provoking essays infused with her unique wisdom and deep humor! Union tells astonishingly personal and true stories about power, color, gender, feminism, and fame. Union tackles a range of experiences, including bullying, beauty standards and competition between women in Hollywood, growing up in white California suburbia and then spending summers with her black relatives in Nebraska, coping with crushes, puberty, and the divorce of her parents. Genuine and perceptive, Union bravely lays herself bare, uncovering a complex and courageous life of self-doubt and self-discovery with incredible poise and brutal honesty. Throughout, she compels us to be ethical and empathetic and reminds us of the importance of confidence, self-awareness, and the power of sharing truth, laughter, and support.

This is an awesome collection of books for you to explore. There’s a mystery to get your heart pumping, Christian philosophies to get your finances straight, a young adult to make you thankful for not being young anymore (lol), a classic fiction love story to help your stretch out on the recliner to read and a funny memoir to help you laugh out loud!


Now it’s your turn…

Let me know what you’re reading in April in the comment section.

Fingernail Polish Color Trends for Mature Hands

Rocking a hot nail color is my thing! I love having fun with my nails and trying new colors and age doesn’t set any boundaries for me. However, there are a few things I like to keep in mind when selecting a color for my manicure, since my hands are starting to show some hints of aging.

Our hands are the first to show signs of aging but I want my hands to look as youthful as possible for as long as possible! These are a few color considerations that I follow when I pick my manicure color!

Favorite color

I am always drawn to choosing my favorite color, which is pink, for my manicure. There are so many variations of pink that can keep me stocked at all times. If you have a favorite lipstick color then I’m sure there are nail polish colors that will match your favorite color as well. You know which color looks great on your skin, so I say start with that color. For me, it’s pink! Did I say that already?!?!

Bright and fun colors

I love wearing bright and fun colors because they are youthful looking colors and the nail polish brings the attention to my manicure rather than my hands.

Some bright youthful looking colors to choose from are

  • Bright pinks in any shade
  • Bright Reds, which include red, burgundy and plum nail polishes
  • Bright Orange, even an orange-red

Nudes for sure

Nude nail polish colors are a must for their anti-aging power. Every woman should have a nude polish in her stash that pairs with a favorite foundation color.

  • If you have light skin, choose shades of white, champagne, nude or sand
  • If you have darker skin, choose shades of cocoa, cappuccino, taupe or coffee



Grays and browns

I love cement gray but don’t necessarily care for browns on my fingers. However, brownish grey can be trendy and youthful looking. Lighter grays, browns and milk chocolate can be super cute and fun looking and not be as flashy as bright colors.

Corals, peaches and translucent

Coral orange, peach colors and translucent pinks elongate fingers and give a fresh appeal to your manicure.

Glitter and shimmer

A hint of shimmer or glitter can add intrigue and add some versatility to a manicure. A light glitter can accent your main polish color to add fun to your manicure.

These are some awesome fingernail polish colors that can bring life to any manicure and help our hands appear as youthful as possible for as long as possible by diverting attention away from our aging hands.


Now it’s your turn…

Let me know what’s your favorite youthful and fun loving nail polish color? in the comment section.

Trim Natural Hair to Maximize Growth

I has an appointment to trim my ends this week. My ends weren’t super bad but I know trimming now will help me have a healthier head of hair. I’m looking to grow my fro as long as it will grow! Trimming our hair is an aspect of a healthy hair care regimen that promotes healthy natural hair growth and length retention. I want to share my answers to some of the common hair trimming questions.

Why is trimming important?

The ends are the oldest part of your hair and can become damaged from manipulation, heat and chemical use, environment and even your diet. Over time, daily wear and tear on your hair will degrade and wear down the hair’s cuticle, exposing the inner cortex. The result is split, frayed and damaged ends of your hair.

Trimming is important to rid your hair of those damaged ends and expose your healthy, vibrant hair that free of tangles and frizz.

Time for a trim?

When it comes to trimming your hair, you can be proactive or reactive.

  • Proactive – Trimming your ends every few months, even when you don’t necessarily notice any damaged or split ends. Trimming should be minute in this case. Most stylists recommends you to trim your hair every 3 to 4 months to keep split and frayed ends at bay.
  • Reactive – Trimming your ends when you notice more tangles, knots and breakage or your ends are frayed and dry. Trim all the damaged ends and your hair will look and feel much better.

How much should be trimmed?

Split ends can travel up the hair shaft which can cause your ends to tangle and look frayed and frizzy. Damaged ends need to be removed totally.

I promote trimming all the split and damaged ends. That may be ¼ of an inch or 2 or more inches. The goal is to rid the hair of all of the split and damaged ends.

Is it possible to trim your own hair?

If you are comfortable with managing your own hair care then trimming can be added to your natural hair care routine. The tools of the trade are professional hair shears and hair clamps. Once you have your tools then you’re more than ready to trim your own hair. If you don’t feel comfortable or don’t want to obtain the proper tools then go to a trusted natural hair stylist.

How to trim your own hair?

Trimming your own hair can take some time, so give yourself enough time to not be rushed while going through the process. Cut your hair while it’s dry and be very careful while trimming, so you don’t cut too much of your hair.

Try two strand twisting your hair and snip off any ends that are frizzy, dry, frayed at the very bottom of your twists. You can snip off the ends as you are twisting your hair and when you finish twisting you will have healthy curls with no signs of damage or split ends. Just remember to cut all the damaged and split ends.


Now it’s your turn…

Let me know how often you trim your hair in the comment section.


My Spring Nail Colors Featuring Pop-arazzi Nail Polishes

Spring is here!!!!

I’m so excited for Spring because along with the incoming warmer weather, Spring also brings new fingernail polish colors!  And if you don’t know……Choosing new nail polish colors is my THING! Yeah, it’s my thing! Right next to taking care of my fingernails and cuticles.

However, I have noticed that the more mature I become the less flashy nail colors I tend to pick out. Yikes…I guess I’m becoming more nail color conservative.

I purchased these six new Pop-arazzi nail polish colors to use for spring from CVS and wanted to share them with you!

Bid You Adieu Blue

A cool blue!

Romance in Bloom

A beautiful pink!

The Perfect Grey

A nice neutral color!

Carmella Latte

A copper beauty!

Toes in the Sand

Every lady needs a nude!

Slate Night Party

A gorgeous concrete gray!

I think these colors are beautiful and these nail polishes are super inexpensive and are sold only at CVS Pharmacy stores.

Follow me on Instagram @NaturallyMenee to see the nail polish colors as I wear them!


Now it’s your turn…

Let me know which color you like in the comment section.